Fulfillment at every age: Not getting stuck in the funk
October 29, 2011
Filed under Blogs
We all have our daily routines: errands to run, emails to address, and a pile of work which can feel like a black hole. Things that you remember being passionate and excited about have become stale lately. You seem to be running on auto-pilot, stuck in a rut you didn’t notice until you were engulfed by it. Trust me, I understand, and it’s not as bad as it seems. You are not alone- this is a phase many of us go through at all different times in life. Luckily, reviving yourself is much easier than you think, and with a little push you’ll be back to yourself before you can release another heavy sigh.
Regardless of age there are some things in life which never change. For example, we all have to work and make a living, as much as we imagine spending the rest of our lives on a holiday cruise ship. Yet aside from our work responsibilities, we each have an obligation to ourselves as human beings to keep constantly learning, growing and experiencing all that life has to offer. How you would spend your time if you didn’t have work? What would you do if you were given a month of free time, with no one to please but yourself?
After you figure this out, write down goals you have for yourself. Sit down and really think about it for a little bit because it’s important when determining where you will take yourself. You may want to go back to school or spend some time travelling, go on a trip with some friends, or maybe do something to make a difference by volunteering. Perhaps you want to learn an instrument or a new language. You are never too old to keep challenging yourself; its how you act that determines how old you are, not a number!
Get on your computer, do a little research, and check out the opportunities in your area. Most likely you will be surprised with the options right in your backyard, available to working people just like you who don’t have all day to spend on their interest, but would love to make it a more regular part of their lives. Even doing it once every week will give you something to look forward to and re-ignite a passion, making you feel happy and alive. And that’s really the point of life, isn’t it?
Another universal feel good prescription, (and you knew this one was coming) is re-inventing your exercise and food routines. Each of us needs exercise and a healthy diet to not only take care of our bodies but also our psychological well-being. I challenge you to redefine these basics in your life and switch both of them up completely. Go ahead and buy a bike! Or take a dance class such as Jazzercise or Zumba! Vary the way you work out; when your body is used to a routine you stop benefiting from the exercise. The same goes for your diet; our bodies crave a wide range of food to keep us feeling energized. Eating as many fruits, vegetables, whole grains and healthy fats (mono and poly-unsaturated) versus processed food will make an enormous difference in the way you feel every day. And at the end of the day, what is more important than taking care of your body?
The last piece of advice I recommend is to spend your precious time with the people who truly make you happy. Eliminate those you feel the need to compete with or impress and replace them with the friends you can relax with and truly open up to. The company you keep greatly influences the way you feel about yourself, so surrounding yourself with positive people and reducing the negativity in your environment will inevitably boost you up. If these friends also make you laugh, then consider yourself lucky. Never underestimate the effect of laughter on the spirit! Go ahead and add ‘laugh every day’ to your goals list. Put it up on your mirror or fridge, a place you will see it often and be reminded of what you are moving towards and striving for to enrich your life one day at a time.
I know from inside it is hard to see the sun, but you are in control of your own life. Once you start small and put that initial positive energy out you will surely see the doors appear. As Max DePree said, “We cannot become what we want to be by remaining what we are”. It feels good to take action and make things happen in our lives; it gives us purpose and shows us we aren’t helpless. It’s time to make some changes and try new things, which is the only way to figure out what works for you and what doesn’t. So remind yourself that your life is what you make it, and you can make it extraordinary.